So I did this little thing that, lord knows, Elizabeth Wren Sanders at many different ages probably thought would never happen. I said yes to loving someone forever. These are funny things, proposals. If done correctly then you already know you’re in it forever and saying yes is just a technicality. Regardless, what a thrill.
For weeks I’ve known Russ was going on a guy weekend in Atlanta. He and a couple of good friends do this trip down there to hit a brewery and tour some Walking Dead set sites. They’ve done it twice before. This was going to be the third time, and I made fun of him pretty relentlessly for not being creative enough to come up with a new trip.
We make fun of each other a lot. It’s what we do.
Russ wasn’t in Atlanta. None of the guys were in Atlanta. Their instagram accounts would have you believe otherwise, a detail that proved handy as I sat by the pool with some girlfriends on Saturday and casually scrolled through the ol’ IG (is that what the kids call it?)
That’s right. Russ planned a guys weekend and I very quickly planned a girls weekend to counter it. I spent most of my day laying poolside, chatting with friends, and letting the sun zap all my energy while turning my skin a little darker. My guy was out of town and I’d be alone the rest of the night, though I assumed I’d be headed to dinner with at least a couple of the girls.
-My mom called and attempted to make dinner plans with me. I knew I’d be tired from the pool day and still hoped for dinner plans with the girls. I declined.-
Let me take a moment right now to just tell you that when Russell A. LaFleur makes a plan, he really makes a plan. I can’t even tell you how many people knew about the proposal before I did, but it was the majority of the people within a 60 mile radius who might potentially ask me to hang out on this particular Saturday night.
I continued to hang out with my friends, still assuming someone would probably stick around for dinner.
-My mom called again. This time to make a plan for me to come over to see about a baby goat that would be moving to the farm. I was still tired, and really not interested in taking the 40 minute drive to Liberty. I declined again.-
My friends left. I couldn’t convince anyone to stick around for dinner and by this point I was tired enough to not try very hard to do so.
-My mom called for a third time. Seriously, why won’t she give this thing up, right? I’m tired. She tells me they need to talk to me and it’s important. Everything is okay, but they need to have this conversation while Russ is out of town.-
If you know me at all you know that I heard everything in this conversation except “Everything is okay”. I threw on some decent clothes, didn’t shower, didn’t wash my hair or the sunscreen off my face, and hurried to my car.
They didn’t think I’d come over so quickly. Sunset wasn’t until 8ish.
As soon as I walked in the door my dad stopped me. He told me to get in the car we were going to see about a baby goat. At this point I was frustrated and confused because we were supposed to be having some serious talk and now there I was talking about a baby goat again.
You know where this is going. Distraction after distraction as they stalled until it got close to sunset. Around the time the sky normally glows orange my mom made up an excuse for us to ride on the tractor to the bottom of the hill where we have our legendary (among family and close friends) campfires.
I’m questioning my intelligence now as I share this story with you and wonder how I didn’t pick up on any of the quirks of my day, but I’d also like to take this moment to swear to you that it’s totally normal for my parents to be mid-conversation then randomly suggest we “take the tractor down by the creek to make sure the fire is out before the wind picks up.”
My parents’ property is a giant hill. The house sits on top, and my favorite corner of the land is on the back left at the bottom of the hill. A creek wraps around much of the back property line. The path we take over the hill carries the tractor through a fence on the far right side of the back pasture. From there you can see the trees by the campfire from about eye level on up to the sky, but you can’t see the ground. I stopped my mom near the bottom of the hill and told her I thought the fire had already spread. I could see tiny flames scattered through the branches. She played along and told my dad to hurry up (hurry up on a tractor — nice one, mom).
As we rounded the corner I saw a figure in my favorite blue and red checkerboard shirt sitting nervously by a fire. I burst into tears, because that’s my move, and because I finally knew what was happening.
My sweet parents dropped me off, waved goodbye, then made the slowest exit of all time on a decade old Case tractor that probably moves about 3 miles an hour.
The flames in the trees were candles.
There was no Atlanta.
There was just a boy who’d spent his entire day with my parents hanging candles in mason jars, string lights, and old notes we’ve written each other all across my favorite clearing by the creek.
We read the notes that were hanging. They were some of our favorites. He told me he’d spent the week preparing while I thought he was at the gym. He told me that he picked up topaz colored glitter to cover the insides of the mason jars. He told me he chose notes because he knows how important words and writing are to me.
I cried like a baby as he handed me one last note with my name on the outside and “Will you marry me?” on the inside. Then he got down on one knee, held up my Mamaw’s ring, and said all the things I could possibly want him to say about sharing this life. I’m not going to tell you he cried (but he totally did).
I said yes (spoiler alert).
The craziest thing about it is I’ve been saying yes. For months we’ve been saying yes. We’ve laughed and cried (again, mostly me). We’ve hiked in some old favorite spots and found some new ones. We’ve run together. We’ve thrown the football around almost every week just like we did on our first date. We’ve spent time with each other’s families, and shared big holidays. We’ve grown together into this thing that already felt like forever. The proposal was beautiful. It was perfect. It included all of the things I love most in this world, but it was ultimately just a technicality.
I love this!!!!
Nancy and I are SO happy for both of you, and we are thrilled that you are going to be (and already are) part of our family! We love you both very much.
I would like to say that Russ got the romantic side of him from me, but the truth is he got it from his mom : )
Can’t wait to come visit and meet your parents!
thank you! we are so excited for your visit, and i’m excited to join the LaFleur family!
Tears are flowing! One of my favorite things about reading your words is that you make me feel like I am experiencing everything you do! Thank you for that! I couldn’t be happier that one of my favorite people found her favorite partner! I’m so very happy for you! 💞
I don’t think you’ll ever really know how much your encouragement means to me. Thank you!
What a beautiful love story….and yes, I too am crying!
Ok, you know your Dad is also crying, it’s a given. What a fun day it was, love you.
The best trip to Atlanta I never took!!
Y’all are awesome for helping! Thanks again!
I just gained a new cousin 🙂
What a beautiful story. You two sound so happy, and I’m happy for the both of you! Russ sounds like a fantastic guy and I know you deserve the best. Sending love and well wishes.
Thank you, Emily! We are very happy and we hope you and your mom will be able to be at the wedding next year. Love you!
What do I think? I think you 2 are the most loving,honest,and fun couples I’ve ever seen..you guys just FIT. And that is a wonderful thing! You already know how happy I am for both of you
I am only the Aunt. But I am the Aunt that shared every treasured moment in his life. And I can’t wait to see the further adventures of you and him together. Remember, the treasures are always close by!!! Love you both and can’t wait to PARTY AT THE FARM!!!💕💕💕💕💕💕
yeah! can’t wait to celebrate with ya! ❤